“Judge not, that ye be not judged.”
Matthew 7:1 KJV
Judging others is a one-way street that is always a dead end. It does not help us other stand others and it’s a negative way for us to feel better about ourselves.
When we’re using a public restroom, and see someone leave without washing their hands, we judge them.
When we see children throwing tantrums in public, we judge the parents.
We’re always quick to judge, until someone does the same to us. Then we think it’s unfair that anyone make assumptions, shame, or misunderstand us.
So how can we keep ourselves from judging others?
Suspend Your Judgement
When we wait to judge, we slow our criticism. Instead of being condescending, we start to understand things from the other person’s perspective.
Let’s face it; life is hard. Most of us wake up before we’d like to and deal with people we wouldn’t spend an extra second with. We have to worry about parenting, working, and living life live and happy. It’s hard work and sometimes, it seems easier to hide behind a veil instead of being true to yourself.
If we do not judge others, we get a small look into what God does for us every day.
See the Beauty in Others
Every human being has the capability and the tendency to do the right thing. However, everyone also has bad days where we are exhausted or ill. Those bad days at work may lead to losing your temper with your family when you get home, or being short with the cashier in the grocery store checkout line.
Although we had the best of intentions on those days, we made bad choices. Those are the days you need to remember to make room for each other’s imperfections, mistakes, and pasts.
Your duty is not to judge. It is not to figure out if someone needs something. It is to life the fallen, to restore the broken, and to heal the hurting. So next time you’re about to judge someone, step back and think how you would feel if you were in their shoes. Instead of passing judgement on them, extend love.
The single mom you see struggling with her two children at the pharmacy? She just lost her job and doesn’t know how she’s going to pay rent this month.
The checkout clerk you just snapped at for giving you incorrect change? He has a learning disability and struggles with arithmetic.
The car racing through traffic during rush hour? Her parents were just in a severe car accident and she’s trying to get to the hospital.
As a human race, we are not good at judging. If we had the ability to read minds, maybe, but until then we will always jump to conclusions.
“We can never judge the lives of others, because each person knows only their own pain and renunciation. It’s one thing to feel that you are on the right path, but it’s another to think that yours is the only path.”